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April 6, 2007

Saying No Isn't Easy, but It Feels Good

I've been struggling with this for a long time, the desire to accept whatever opportunity arises. Over the past few months I've said no to a number of folks and opportunities that I probably would have said yes to a year ago.

Why?

It might not be much to take something extra on when life is moving along calmly (by which I mean a full-time day job and a family with 3 kids) and an opportunity pops up every now and then. It becomes more complex when those opportunities get closer together, and very complicated when they start to overlap. The trouble with me is that I continue to say yes even as they start to overlap and in the end I have to nearly kill myself to meet multiple obligations.

This has led to a lot of thought about my time and where it is best spent. I find that it is pretty obvious to me if I'm doing something that feels worth my time.

It doesn't make it easy to say no, there are some things I've said no to that I'm still wondering about. But it does feel good to not be under the strain of many obligations.

Posted by mike at April 6, 2007 9:00 AM